Few people realize how much fear rules our world. Almost everyone has at least one fear that prevents them from 100% full enjoyment of life. many people are paralyzed by their fears and allow them to rule their lives. Many would prefer to never need to speak to another person, but few will admit it is out of one or more fears rather than a desire for solitude. This article is about overcoming fear in its many aspects. We will examine where these fears come from and some of the items and techniques you can use to remove them from your life.
The Origins of Fear
No one can say with absolute certainty where fear originated from. We can make an educated guess that its beginning come from the instinctive “fight or flight” trait humans were endowed with. In some ways it has become an outdated instinct, but in other ways it is still very much needed in our lives. It is only when we allow it to grow to the extreme that it becomes a hindrance to us and we begin to seek ways to overcome fear.
The fight or flight instinct will probably always be needed. It is how we protect ourselves from both seen and unseen dangers. At some point in our future evolution we may all have enough intuition to warn us of dangerous situations, but until then small doses can mean the difference between life and death.
Religions Help Spread Fear
The majority of the world’s population still consider themselves to be followers of the 3 major books religions of the world. (Christianity, Judaism and Islam). These religions use fear of what their god will do as their guiding factor. They see it as their job to save the world from the damnation their god will bring upon non-believers. Fearing their god easily takes over the lives of many people, no matter what religion they follow. This is especially true for those who have seen much lost and hardship in their lives. It becomes a paralyzing factor that saps joy from their lives at that point.
I personally do not fear The Creator however, I believe everyone has a right to believe as they see fit. I do not say any of this out of hate of anyone. In fact just the opposite. It is my hope that those who have taken it to the extreme can learn that their fear of life because they do not wish to “get on the wrong side” of their god, is not what their god intended.
There is also the fact that there are some within every religion who take their beliefs to the extreme and switch from spreading the love of their god to using their god as a weapon against others. This has done much to exacerbate the paralyzation of many of their followers and many non-believers also. There are far too many places in this world where if you choose to believe in the wrong religion, you can literally be killed for your beliefs. I am sorry but I will never believe there is one iota of love in actions such as these.
Overcoming Fear that Paralyzes
Overcoming fear takes a conscious effort. Few can simply decide today they will no longer let it rule their lives and be immediately healed of their paralyses. If religion is a main culprit in your fear, talk to others within your religion that are fearless. They can help you to understand where you are allowing misconceptions to paralyze you. You can also start by examining what you believe about your religion. I have met people who believed that is they became angry at someone, they would be damned for it. Anger is a natural human emotion put inside us by The Creator. It can help us release pent up frustrations that build until they paralyze us. It is not the anger that is wrong, it is what you do with the anger that MAY be wrong.
I tend to get angry with people who attempt to force their beliefs on others. Obviously that anger is justified to a point. Does it give me the right to be rude and walk away when they will not take no for an answer, of course it does. Does it give me the right to physically strike out at them, of course it does not.
Bottling up fear can cause us many problems, but letting go of it in unhealthy ways is not in our best interest either. Find a way to release your anger without causing harm to anyone. Meditation, grounding energy, aura combing, pillow beating (it helps in really severe cases) or simply talking to a good listener can help. The trick here is to not give up. If you try one thing and it doesn’t work, try something else.
Fear of Pain
Fear of pain, both physical and emotional can also be paralyzing if we allow it to. It is natural to want to stay away from painful situations, but we cannot allow it to prevent us from living life for fear of getting slightly hurt.
Everyone has what is known as a pain threshold. One person may see a needle stick as very painful. Another may see it as nothing more than a bothersome fly flitting around. There are people who have walked many miles with a broken leg to get help after an accident. Others may not be able to walk with a cut the does not need stitches.
Whether you are afraid of physical or emotional pain, it is easy to allow that fear to prevent you from enjoying life. Releasing that fear can begin by using any of the techniques in this article. If it is physical pain you fear, trying completing mainly safe tasks that could possible result in some pain. Look for opportunities based upon your particular type of fear.
- Fear of heights, try climbing one or two rungs on a ladder.
- Find a tower of some sort and walk up a few steps. When the fear begins to set in, go back down. Later, do it again and be determined to go up just one more step. Repeat until you are at the top.
- Fear of crowds: have a friend meet you in a place where there are several people. Relax with your friend until you feel comfortable before moving to a place with a few more people. Repeat until you are comfortable in large crowds.
- Fear of speaking to strangers: Find an area where there are several people. Look for someone with a smile on their face and tell them they have a beautiful smile. The idea is to begin mini conversations with people who look none-threatening.
The concept here is to take tiny steps to overcoming your fear. Each success takes a little chunk out of the results of your fear until eventually you can face it head on and take back your freedom!
Overcoming Fear with Gemstones
Below is a list of gemstones known to help. Simply having one of more of them within your aura will help. You can either wear one as jewelry, carry one in your pocket, sleep with one under your pillow or mediate while holding one or having it touching your body while meditating in a prone position.
- Black Onyx
- Black Tourmaline
- Grey Moonstone
- Smoky Quartz
- Snowflake Obsidian
Any stone or crystal known for it’s ability to ground energies can help you remove your fears by following this simple procedure. Hold your choice of stone in your hand. Close your eye and visualize your fear as a physical object made up of dark energy. See it swirling through your body. Now visualize that swirling mass moving down your arm, out of your body and entering into the stone you are holding. Continue the visualization until your body is cleared of the energy.
NOTE: Afterward the stone must be cleansed if you intend to keep. I prefer to actually bury the stone rather than attempting to use it again, but that is up to you.
- Apache Tears
- Black Onyx
- Black Tourmaline
- Green Jade
- Moss Agate
- Snowflake Obsidian
- Red Tiger Eye
- Rose Quartz
- Smoky Quartz
- Tourmalinated Quartz